23 Apr Winners find a way to win
On this journey we call life you’ll have to remember and know who you are more often than not. The biggest problem most of us will encounter is “our feelings” and thinking that others care about them as much as we do.
To the average person I encounter I’m sure they think I’m strictly business and don’t care about anything else. That’s far from true, but life made me have to become this way or I would be a complete weeping willow. When I was a child I cried at the drop of a dime. My Nana would say, “don’t say that to her. You know she’s tenderhearted.” That was her way of protecting my feelings, but my uncle didn’t care about my feelings or who hurt them. He knew what my Nana had failed to realize. He was preparing me for the world and he knew I was going to need a much thicker skin if I was going to make it out of that hot trailer.
“Not on my watch” was his favorite saying. I knew what that meant. I was crying because I was a motherless child, but that again wasn’t going to matter to anybody once I became a certain age. So, I stopped crying and started doing. I decided my life would be different at around 10 years old and I became bound and determined to make it so. It was simply a decision! I remember the day like it was yesterday and I never looked back. I cried in my pillow when I was sad, but I never let another person say things to me or about me to my face and without standing up for myself…not even adults.
The wrap up here is this…I care deeply for others, but I don’t allow any and everybody into my space. I’m too busy for that and my heart honestly can’t handle the disappointment most will bring. You have to decide how you want to spend your time and your life. I’m a solutions driven person and have been solving serious ‘ish” since I was a child so, I can process and fix a problem in someone else’s life very easily. But everyone doesn’t want to be great so, work on you more often than not. It’s a much better use of your time and you’ll attract more rare breeds.
They exist and I’m thankful I’ve lived to meet more souls that are rare as well. They aren’t easy to find,but they are out there! Keep striving..kindreds will always find each other! 😘